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Name Location Email (will not be displayed) Comments "I went to high school at Bishop O' Dowd with Tim in the class of 1970 and played in a rock jazz band with him for a couple of years. Tim was a gentle and kind man that was always a pleasure to be around. I have been in Texas for 27 years, but unfortunately our paths never crossed here in the Lone Star State. I will be praying for his family and especially his wife. Regards, Jim Fraga " Jim Fraga Dallas, TX 6/15/2009 11:41:00 AM "Today would have been Tim's 56th Birthday.......... I still can't believe he is gone.. You are so missed and will always be very much loved.... Please be our Guardian Angel..." Susan Flannigan Texas 2/28/2008 8:57:00 PM "I just recently learned of Tim's passing and offer my condolences to all his family. Tim was a good friend during high school at Bishop O'Dowd: he had this great smile and laugh that was infectious!! From his photos, the hair was a little grayer but the smile was still all Tim! May your memories of him be a source of comfort. God Bless! Chris Hatcher 5/30/07" Christine Rosenga Hatcher Fayetteville, NC 5/30/2007 12:51:00 PM "Today, it is the two year anniversary of the loss my husband and the father of my sons, Tim Flannigan. I can hardly believe that it has been two years since that night when he was tragically taken away..This last couple of weeks has really been a very hard time for me because I have had some very intense dreams of Tim, him asking me to join him and to make everything right again. I know a few people have been trying to get in touch with me, but I just can't seem to talk or answer the phone or even email right now, I hope you all can understand some of this pain that I am going through and will let me have my space to still grieve for my Husband.. I still don't understand why and I probably never will. But life really does go on, I am now leading a completley different llife, something I never expected to do. My Sons are living their lives, Jim is still working very hard on his business, and it seems like his brother and him have gotten closer through this whole mess.. I guess the biggest news is that Ken and Michelle are expecting their first child around the second week of October, they are both very excited and looking forward to this new phase in their lives.. Tim would have been so happy for them and also to finally become a Grandfather. He would have been an excellent Grandpa.. Everything else is still going on, I would have hoped Tim could be here to enjoy this new part of our lives, But I guess God had a different plan for him.... I hope all is well with everyone but please still keep Tim and my sons in your prayers... Susan " Susan Flannigan Dripping Springs, Texas 3/25/2007 6:42:00 PM "On the eve of 2007, I am sitting here in my living room thinking that just two years ago we were all together as a family, celebrating our happy lives, together to ring in the new year..So much has changed in the matter of a short time..As a family losing Tim in such a tragic way just about did me in. I didn't want to go on without Tim. I tried to for the sake of my sons, but I just figured I would not be here on this earth very long without Tim. But somehow I have made it, I don't understand why but I am still here..My sons have also had a rough time with out their dad who they adored. But time has a way to keep everyone moving. Jim is still working and growing in his business, his dad really believed in him and knew one day he would be very successful. Just the other day my baby turn 29, he turned 29 on the 29th. In Texas they call it a Golden Birthday..He also has been building his business for 10 years.. I am very proud of him and I know that his Dad is too! My younger Son Ken graduated and got his drafting degree and found a wonderful job with an archtecture firm here in Austin, he seems to love it. He also married his High school sweetheart Michelle this last May. They married in our church with a full mass it was wonderful. They also bought there first home and have been very excited that they could do that completley on their own. Tim would have been so proud and happy for them both. I know I will never be able to get over the loss of my husband the father of my children. I wonder each day is he here watching out for me and the boys.. I had wished I would see Tim in dream but that has yet to happen.. I do think about him every day and wonder why did this happen to such a special person, why Him? Hopefully someday I will know.. Please always keep Tim in your thoughts and prayers... " Susan Flannigan Texas 12/31/2006 8:13:00 PM "Today is our 30th wedding anniversary, it would have been one wonderful day of celebration's, maybe a Trip, Tim always wanted to go on a cruise or maybe we would been in Europe, He really wanted to take me there, But I will never know what we would have done now. Today I have taken the day off work and just plan to focus on everything about Tim, Looking at our wedding pictures and the wonderful family pictures we had taken over the years. I do miss Tim so much. I have been having some strange dreams this week, dreaming of trying to phone Tim and not being able to remember his phone number, Tim was always as close as a phone call when he was working I would call him with some problem I was having, he would stop and calm me down and figure out how to fix my problems where ever he was, it always worked, and now I am trying so hard to listen for Tim and hope he will send me a message of hope. But nothing has happened and so I wait... Maybe today since this is such a special anniversary he will come to me with answers for the future. I think of him everything day, I wake up thinking of him and go to bed at night with him in my thoughts and prayers.. I miss him so much and want him back, but that will never happen, I can only hope I will see him again, maybe in my dreams and hopefully in heaven.. I love you Tim with all my heart. I miss you so much, Please answer my prayers and come to me in my dreams so I can go on with my life.. Mrs. Timothy Flannigan" Mrs Timothy Flannigan 11/13/2006 8:11:00 AM " Dear Friends and Family, As I write on Tim's memorial site, for some reason I have had a hard time gathering my thoughts and finding it hard to put them into words, but I am going to try. So here goes. Since the last time I wrote, I have returned from California after discovering that I just don't fit into the family like I thought I would. Everyone has gone on with their lives and it was very difficult to witness that. I knew right after I was there that this wasn't the solution to my desperation of finding a place to start my life without Tim. I stayed with my Mother in Law and Sister in law and I'm sure I wasn't very good company but they were wonderful, supportive, loving and very patient. I had hoped this would be the answer I was looking for but I was wrong, I had given myself the summer to decide what my next move would be, and I decided to come back to Austin and back to work knowing I needed to find my place this city and with my Son's and my new Daughter in law.. So the adventure begins.. I was now in full speed to find a place of my own, I had decided to look outside of Austin in more of a country setting. I did find a home, small but cozy with alittle piece of land. I actually have deer and lots of critters, I even have a cat who we named sophia who has adopted me and the puppies.. Jim and Ken love the house, and I think Tim would have loved it too.. We had always talked about getting a smaller place in the country, with no stairs and a view of the hill country. Well now that I have that I just wish Tim was here to enjoy it with me. As I was driving home the other day my mind wandering and thinking about all the things Tim has missed, new songs on the radio, new jobs, new friends, movies, holidays and celebrations, UT Football games, everything is changing and I still want it to stay the same but life will never be the same again without Tim. I sometimes still feel like he is on a business trip and will be home on the weekend, but reality hits me when the weekend comes and He is not home.. I miss him so much it hurts, I still haven't gotten that dream I have been waiting for from him,I just need for him to let me know that he is OK, that he is waiting for me to join him when my time is up..I love You Tim and I will Love you Forever and Ever! Mrs. Timothy Flannigan " Mrs. Susan Flannigan 11/4/2006 8:49:00 PM "This last weekend on May 20th our son Ken and his fiance Michelle married. It was a weekend that Tim would have loved and cherished, seeing youngest son taking the biggest step in his life, Tim would have been so happy and proud, because he knew Michelle and loved and cared for her. He knew she would make a wonderful addition to our family. The week began with all the relatives coming in from California and Washington, Grandpa Jim and Grandma Jean arriving first then followed by Ken's sister Kristi and her husband Rick and niece's Morgan and Gianna and Nephew Kolby, Then Auntie Barb and Adrienne (Godsister and Bridesmaid) coming next. Then of course Grandma and Aunt Sherry & Aunt Sheila and Sharon Mello (like an Aunt) arriving last on Thursday. On Friday Uncle Thomas and Cousins Kim and Nicole, Uncle John (Godfather) Aunt Deb and Cousin Ben arrived an hour later with my best friend Kathleen. The last to arrive was cousin Melanie; she got in around 6:00 a.m. on Saturday morning. On Friday night we had the rehearsal at the church afterward we had the rehearsal dinner at the Oasis Restaurant on Lake Travis. It was a wonderful dinner with over 50 friends and family attending. The next day of course was the big day; we arrived at the church around 12:30 p.m. with the service beginning at 2:00p.m. Right at 2:00 p.m. the music began and people took their seats in a beautiful setting at St. Thomas More Catholic Church. It was so wonderful seeing friends and family in such a happy setting. Ken escorted me down the isle and I lit a unity candle. It was such a surreal feeling as I looked back remembering the day that Tim and I got married over 29 years ago. Then as the bridesmaid's and groomsmen came down the isle I just couldn't help looking at Ken and thinking of his Dad, remembering the look on Tim's face as he watched me walked down the isle holding my Dads arm. I watched Kens face and looked into his eyes and I saw Tims. It was amazingduring the ceremony and mass we had beautiful readings by Kathleen, John and Nicole, with Auntie Barb and Uncle Tom bringing up the gifts to the priest. During communion Kens Aunt Sherry helped Father Elmer. Ken and Michelle really tried to get as many family member involved in their big day. It was tough doing all the pictures because deep in my heart I just wanted Tim in those pictures, he is missing so much, and we are missing him so much. I just wanted him with the boys and me. After the ceremony after the family pictures we headed for the reception at the Hamilton Twelve, It was set up beautifully, and the party started. The kids arrived and were just beaming with love and happiness. Tim would have loved this moment and I hope he was with us seeing the kids so happy and in love. The party went on for about five hours then the kids left for their night at the Four Season Hotel then off to Spain the next morning. I wish Ken and Michelle the most happiness in their new life together, Happy and fully loved as Tim made my life for over 28 years. This week I head to California to spend the summer with our families, I really wanted to give Jim and Ken a break from me, it has been hard for them to deal with me this last year. I will be staying with Tims Mom and Sister. I also will be working at the local Barnes and Noble for the summer it should be interesting. So for now I hope everyone has a safe summer, please take care and if you can send a message on this site, I love hearing from everyone.. Much Love to All! Mrs. Timothy Flannigan" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 5/29/2006 1:39:00 PM "This weekend has been a weekend of reliving the nightmare of losing Tim all over again. Friday was Good Friday and a year ago that night we had spent such a wonderful evening together, going to dinner enjoying each others company. Then going to Central Market and picking up some pasta and wine for our Easter dinner, talking and joking about our crazy life and family. It seems so strange that in less than an hour later our family would be shattered by the sudden passing of our Tim. Friday, Ken came over to our house, a house in transistion because I have to be out of it in a week, with boxes and stuff spread all around the house, it is a very hard home to life in right now, so Ken asked me to come spent the weekend with him and Michelle at their new house. It really felt alittle like a vacation. So off we went to his home and it felt wonderful. I got to sleep in their guest room, Michelle had fixed it up really cute, with candles burning and a pretty bedspread. I actually relaxed alittle. That evening we sat around playing cards and having drinks. We got to a point that evening that we started talking about the last Good Friday a year ago when we were together and how the night turned into a blur for all of us. It was very sad, we all miss Tim so much... Saturday, we ran some errands and Ken and Michelle were busy putting their house together, it was nice. They are so much in love, I see so much of Tim in Ken, they are very much alike. I told Michelle that day that if Ken is anything like his Dad she will have a wonderful life..I can see that happening! Michelle's sister Melanie came in from college saturday night and we had a wonderful dinner, then played cards some more, it feels good to be around people who are such an important part of your life. After we had ate dinner Michelle's Mom and Dad arrived to spend the night too. It felt right. We all stayed up really late talking and playing cards. On sunday, Easter Sunday we got up to have a big breakfast prepared by Michelle's Mom, Diana and also started preparing our traditional Easter dinner of Lamb and Pasta. Ken wanted to learn how to fix it so I walked him through the recipe, well I had to call my Dad who gave me instruction over the phone and in turn I told Ken what to do. I have only prepared this meal for 28 years.. Around 2:00p.m. Jim arrived and Michelle's brother Michael came over and Ken's good friend Joel and his girl friend also arrived. We all sat down to eat around 4:00 p.m., Ken said a few words and then we had a small toast to Tim with the bottle of wine that Tim had bought that night we were at Central Market. It was strange without him. But we made it through, I guess life still just goes on even though it is so painful for all of us. I then decided I would come home, well this is not really a home anymore, the night Tim was taken from us that all changed, this beautiful home holds nothing but sadness for me, it was supposed to be a dream home but turned into a nightmare for me. Well I close on this house on April 25th, the movers are coming on the 22nd, I will be putting everything in storage and living- short term with Jim, he offered because I just couldn't decide what I am going to do yet. I really don't want to make anymore bad choices for my life. Well I hope everyone who reads this had a wonderful Easter weekend, I want to believe that Tim was with us all weekend too, he would have loved being around family and friends, I can only hope and pray he was with us through out the weekend, always and everyday and every hour and every second of every day. I LOVE YOU TIM AND MISS YOU VERY MUCH, PLEASE BE WITH ME AND OUR SONS AND OUR FAMILIES.. " Mrs Timothy Flannigan austin, texas 4/16/2006 7:39:00 PM " I cant believe it has been a whole year today since I lost my Husband and the father of my sons. It seems strange that a year has now passed, a year without Tim. But for some reason tonight I am having a hard time expressing my true feelings about what this past year without Tim has been like. Today I woke up before the sun came up knowing that this day has arrived. Knowing that I will be posting on Tims website, an opportunity for me to vent my thoughts and feelings on what this last year has been like for me. Last year on this very day sitting in my family room with EMS, Police and the Fire Department hovering around my home with my husband lying on the family room floor, as my son Ken and my next door neighbor Jim Parker tried in vain to do CPR on Tim. I remember just pacing and waiting for help from the medical people in my home and then being told that Tim was gone. Seeing my sons faces knowing that they are now without their Dad, the man they both worshiped, and looked up to, How can this be happening to us, to Tim, to a man that had touched so many lives, I will never know.. I do thank God that Ken and Michelle were here with Tim and Me that evening, We had just came back from having a nice dinner, Tim really enjoyed spending time with the kids, he loved doing things with them.. I have also discovered what wonderful people I do have surrounding me, My neighbors Jim and Margaret, Michelles parents David and Diana and sister Melanie have been a constant source of comfort to me, They have made many a trip from San Antonio to just spend the weekend and it has been wonderful, I dont know what I dont know what I would have done without them. Tims good friend Andy Heins has taken us out to dinner and has checked in on us regularly, he has been a good friend, Tim would be so happy to know this. My boss at Barnes and Noble, Marchelle Hughes has been so wonderful and understanding with me, we have had some wonderful talks together about both of our losses this last year. I really dont think I could have gone back to working if it wasnt for her.. Then theres our families, Tims Mom and sisters have kept in contact, His Mom calls me weekly, I do wish I lived closer to her so I could at least have that connection with Tim. Then theres my sister Barb, Who calls me 2 to 3 times a week just to check on me to see how were doing. I wish I could see her more often, I miss her and her family so much. My Beautiful nieces, who send me cards and talk to me on the phone and on email.. I do miss my family and would love to see them more, but years ago when Tim and I made the decision to move to Texas. Little did we know that we would be alone without each other to go on with life.. It is the hardest thing I have ever done so far in my life.. I have also met a lot special people here in my home, Like the man who I had called about getting some trees trimmed so I could put the house on the market, what a generous man. Then theres Jack, who Ken found, who finally fixed our AC in this house, He offered his help in fixing anything I needed done in the house to get it ready to sell. These men I didnt know at all but as they did work for me came to find out the circumstances of my moving and offered to fix and trim at no charge. They said No Charge it is still hard for me to believe that truly good people just appeared in my life. I Have also met some wonderful people at work, many of them come in looking for a particular book and we end up talking and crying right in the middle of Barnes and Noble. It does seem strange but it happens and then I never see them again.. We did finally put the house up on the market in November and I thought I was so ready to leave this house until we got our first offer last week and when it came in I fell apart. I know I need to move out of this beautiful house and I know that I must move on but when the offer on the house was made reality hit me that I was going to have to move out of this house, the last house that Tim lived in and loved so much. So Yes it has sold and I am going to be moving, to where I dont know yet.. We did have some happy news with the engagement of our son Ken to Michelle, a long time coming, have been dating since high school and now a wedding is being planned for May 20 of 2006. Tim would have loved being a part of this happy day. He loved Michelle and would be so happy for the two of them.. Now I guess I must close for the evening. Ken, Michelle, Melanie, David and Diana are here with me tonight, the night I have been dreading has now almost come to a close, the year I didnt think I could live through is now over. Live does go on whether we want it to , we must go on, I do know that but I will never never be the same with Tim, without the man who totally loved me who gave me himself unconditionally and never asked for anything but to be loved.. I LOVE YOU TIM AND I HOPE YOU CAN FEEL MY LOVE FOR YOU, I MISS YOU SO MUCH AND WILL ALWAYS CARRY YOU IN MY HEART.. Mrs. Timothy Flannigan " Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 3/25/2006 11:25:00 PM "I can't believe it has been a year already that we received that shocking phone call that Tim had passed. I know today is going to be difficult for all, especially Sue, Jimmy and Kenny and the rest of his family and friends. Tim had touched every person he came in contact with and we still shed tears when we talk about him, especially when we come on this site and see that picture of him. That smile and sparkle in his eyes was the person we all knew and loved. All of us have many wonderful memories of the great times we shared with him. That is what helps us every day. It's funny that most of us remembered the first time we met Tim. I know it was because of his caring and loving ways. Sue, I know it has been a very difficult year for you and the boys, but know that he is watching over you. He was so proud of all of you. He knows that Jimmy is doing well with his business and that Kenny graduated and he and Michelle bought their first house. He will let you know soon that he is ok and is with his Dad and brother Pat. I'm know he has seen Mom too. You and the boys are always in my prayers." Barbara Dublin, CA 3/25/2006 3:14:00 PM "Susan, I know how difficult today is for you. I could lie and tell you it will get better, but I still plan my life with attending mass on the 8th of every month and travel on June 8th. Year 1, a return to El Salvador and learning of the circumstances of Mauricio's murder. Year 2, travel to Ireland with Carlos and Colleen. One of my commitments is to do the things "we" dreamed about doing. Year 3, another return to El Salvador to meet with FBI, State Department and San Salvador police. We know, they know, who killed Mauricio. Such a travesty. Year 4, coming up. Carlos, Colleen and I will take a cruise. We will be in Cozumel, Mexico on June 8th, so will have no trouble finding a church. We've already decided on El Salvador in 2007. The years do pass. The pain lessens. The good days increase. We do get up every morning and go to bed every night. We laugh, we cry, we pray. We promise our children we will not hurt them. We do survive and remember we are blessed with people who truly love us. Know always that I am one who loves you. Kathleen" Kathleen San Ramon 3/25/2006 12:23:00 PM "Dear Mrs (Susan) Flannigan & family, Like several others who have posted their tributes on this site, I knew Tim just very briefly - in fact, as I live in London, England, I only met him in person once, two years ago in New York, after which we exchanged some emails, the last time almost exactly a year ago. I was very sad to hear (just today) of Tim's passing, such was the positive impression he made on me in that short time. Apart from his professionalism, it was Tim's natural friendliness and smile that stood out for me - you could virtually feel the goodness he radiated. I hope that reading this example (one of many) of how Tim touched the lives of people with whom he had even the briefest acquaintance and of how his spirit remains alive in others today will help you and your family in coping with his loss. Marc de Speville London, UK" Marc de Speville London, UK 3/6/2006 4:46:00 AM "As I sit here in my home I try to picture what my life was like 11 months ago today. It was an average day, Tim and I did our usual Saturday thing, go to Costco and just walk around looking and tasting all the samples, then purchasing whatever caught our fancy and then getting a Hotdog and coke on the way out. Then heading back to our house, the house that Tim loved and considered our dream home, relaxing, maybe watching a movie and then grilling a steak and having a early dinner. How strange life is that in just one month our whole world would be turned upsidedown and that my life would be without my husband and the father of our sons. What a cruel twist to our family, the man who was the center of our world would be gone forever. Today Michelle (Ken's fiance) and her Mom and Dad spent the day with us, shopping and finding things for their up and coming wedding, many times while we were out we would talk about Tim, about being together and just tear up, missing him so much everyday. It doesn't get eaiser as time goes by, time is just going by and we just wake up and move on with the day because there is no choice. I want my husband back, my best friend, the father of my children. I am so lonely without him and I feel my heart is slowly dying without him and his unconditional love and devotion for me. What am I going to be without him in my life? Can anyone answer that? Can you hear me Tim? Can you come to me in my dreams to let me know you are alright and that you will be waiting for me to come to you when my time on earth is through..I love you so much I only hope and pray that you knew that. I will always wonder if you knew How much you really were loved. Eleven Month ago today you may have left us on this earth but you will never leave us in our hearts. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU EACH AND EVERYDAY Your Wife, Susan (Mrs. Timothy Flannigan) " Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 2/25/2006 10:58:00 PM "Well Ten months have now gone by since we lost Tim. It is still a mystery to me why this has happened. But each and every day I think of Tim and miss him so much. Each day when I wake up my first thoughts are of Tim and just making it through another day, it is the msot difficult thing I have been through my whole life, I have such emptiness in me I feel my heart has been broken. I try to think of the future but it is tough because I thought my future was with my husband Tim. But now I am alone, emotionally dependant on my sons and wondering what will the future have in store for me. I do have my job at Barnes & Noble, and I am very lucky to have that, I also have a wonderful boss, Marchelle, who has been a godsend to me because she allows me to vent my frustrations with losing Tim. I have discovered my true friends and a loving family. Things that I probably wouldn't have known, I now know... I have my puppies who I feel sense my grief, they often jump up on my lap when I cry and give me little kisses. I really feel they feel my pain. We still are in the process of getting our home sold, but it hasn't happened yet. It is a total nighmare having strangers coming and looking at the home Tim loved so much, but I guess when the time is right it will sell. We are also going to appointments for the wedding, everything is going well, but time is rushing upon us and the big day will be here before you know it. Still it is so hard to believe Tim is gone forever from our lives, we just go on I guess until it is our time and hopefully I will be reunited with my Husband in a better place. Fondly, Mrs. Timothy Flannigan susan@sitestreet.com " Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 1/25/2006 7:37:00 PM "OH MY GOD!!! Texas won!!! Tim would be proud, Ken is so happy, and finally we laugh and cry and wonder if Tim see's how happy Ken is that UT won the National Title? We love you and miss you Tim and wish you were here to celebrate with us.. YOUR WIFE, SUSAN-MRS. TIMOTHY FLANNIGAN" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 1/4/2006 11:52:00 PM "Happy New Year to all!! As we sit and wait for the game (UT vs. USC) to start, I can't help remembering last year at this time when Tim and Jimmy were at the Rose Bowl in Pasadena and Ken, Michelle and I watched the game knowing that Tim and Jim were there, having fun, enjoying California. Its hard to believe that in a years time we lost Tim, it is unreal. Ken was just saying we all probably would be there in Pasadena, staying in the RV with the dogs, having alot of fun..It is so sad and I wonder how I will go on without him, but I know I must for the sake of my children.. This year holds many events that involve family and friends. The wedding, which is May 20th, all the planning and excitement. I wish Tim could be here with us celebrating a happy day and looking forward to Ken and Michelle's future together. Well the game starts in 45 minutes and everyone is alittle nervous and anxious about how the game will go. Ken said we really can't lose today because these are both teams Tim loved. He was an alumni of USC and he was also a loyal fan of UT. He loved Austin and all that is in this city, I only wish he could be here to enjoy this life he loved so much.. Again a Happy New Year to all. Mrs Timothy Flannigan susan@sitestreet.com" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 1/4/2006 6:31:00 PM "Hello to all who are still looking at and checking out Tim's memorial site this Christmas Day, the nine month mark of Tim being gone from this life as we know it.. Today has been a strange and unusual day because it is the first time in 29 years that Tim is not here in his home, spending time with my sons and Me. Enjoying his day off from his busy schedule. This time of the year Tim would be able to be home and enjoy some time off, sometimes we would drive home to California to spend the holiday with our families, driving in the RV with the dogs and our son Ken. Sometimes we would just stay home and relax. This year is like no other because we are without his wonderful outlook on life, his general happiness of spending time with our little family. I have thought of him all day, I have also watched my sons Jim and Ken as they deal with the reality of their father no longer being with us. It is tough.... As I write this I look at Tims face staring back at me and it feels so unreal, Like it is all a very bad dream that I will wake up from in the morning. Ken and His fiance Michelle, My older son Jim, Michelle's Parents David and Diana and Michelle's Brother Michael and sister Melanie spent the day with me, Diana brought the dinner and cooked it all, we spent the day talking, crying, laughing and then crying some more. It has been difficult for all of us but we made it through, hard to believe but we made it through this day without my Husband and Best friend. I really don't know how but we did.. Now we move on to the next big day which is New Years Day, another holiday without Tim. But I feel this strong need to get out of 2005 and on to the new year. This has been the year from HELL and I do not think I could handle another tragedy like the ones we have had this year On to 2006, the year of Bridal showers, Weddings and being with Family and Friends. This is what I need now, some happiness and some peace in my life. I did have something special happen to me this week, My son Jim brought over to my home a young man who is a Feng Shui Master, as I call him. His name is Sebastian, He spent about five hours rearranging my furniture and rehanging pictures and generally decluttering my home and I must say I loved everything he did, but he also talked to me and told the reason for moving things around and getting the clutter out of the way of the flow of my home. Believe it or not I did feel pretty good when he left, I really can't say when I have had such a calm and exhausted feeling like this since I lost Tim. My favorite room is probably the master Bedroom. and for the first time in 9 months I was able to sleep in my bed and sleep through the night, My Son Ken actually had to wake me in the morning. A first in 9 months. I don't know if the process of moving the furniture really had that much of an effect on my general feeling sadness or what it was but I know something changed in my home. And I thank my new friend Sebastian for his ability help me.. I have met some wonderful people these last 9 months, people who were total strangers to me, who have shown such a compassion of love and generosity to me a total stranger. I have also discovered some true friends these last 9 months to, Diana and David Deininger who are Michelle's parents have come on a moments notice to spent the weekend with me doing nothing more that watching TV, Eating and Talking. They have showed me that they truly care, Ken is very lucky to be getting them as his in-laws. Their daughter Melanie has been great company for me, she comes in on the weekends just to do what ever needs to be done for me. I truly think of her as a daughter, then there's Michelle, my future daughter in law, who for me lets me cry and talk about Tim and how much I miss him. I am very lucky to have her in my life. My good friend Treedy Chapa is another one of those people that would come at a moments notice to be here for me, not to long ago she and her daughter Ana come up after one of my phone where I could barely talk, they were at my home in a couple of hours and had dinner with them. We spent the night talking and crying, it did help me.. I love them both so much.. At work I do have this wonderful Boss, her name is Marchelle Hughes, she lost her husband last February. I feel blessed to have her in my life, she is a wonderful person and has been a wonderful friend to me too. I have my neighbors Jim and Margret Parker who still call and check on Ken and Me a couple a times a week. Jim was here the night Tim collasped, he helped Ken with the CPR. They have been kind and gentle with me. The last person I want to mention is Tim's good friend and coworker, Andy Heins. He has made a special effort to keep in touch with the boys and me, Tim would be very happy about his checking in and seeing how we are doing. This week he is coming into Austin to take us out to dinner to catch up with us and to see how we are doing.. I do miss my family and wish I could see them but the distance is big so the phone must do. I talk to my sister Barbara 2 to 3 times a week, but I wish we could see each other more, I miss her daughters so much. Well Tim if you can read this or can just feel from my heart how much you are loved and missed everyday. I so feel that you will come to me in my dreams and let me know you are OK and also be able to guide in my path in this life, I feel so disjointed like I just don't belong here anymore, that my life ended when I lost you, I am lost without you in my life and don't have a clue on what to do with myself. I will love you forever and miss you longer than that. Please come to me, let me feel you are with me, Help Me!!! Fondly, Mrs. Timothy Flannigan(Susan) susan@sitestreet" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 12/25/2005 11:44:00 PM "Its so hard to describe, or to know what to right about Mr. Flannigan. Anyone who knew him knows what kind of a person he was; great. He was always up for a good time. He wanted everyone around him to be happy and to have a good time and when you were around him, you did have a good time. He was always extremely positive and his smile, again everyone who knew him knows about his smile. It was awesome, he was never afraid to show it either. Being Ken's best friend allowed me many oppurtunities to hang out with Mr. Flannigan, no holds bard. We had so many fun, slightly drunk times. He always excepted me, he and Mrs. Flannigan, even when not many other people did. He always seemed to be a 23 year old trapped in a 53 year old's body. He loved Ken so much. They were best friends. Its hard to grasp the fact that Ken's mentor, his confidant, his friend, the man that Ken turned to for every piece of advice...his FATHER is gone forever from his life. The two people I love most in this world are my sister Michelle and Ken. We have been through so much together. I always try to really put myself there that night in March at the Flannigan's house. Mrs. Flannigan, who has become another one of my best friends, Michelle and Ken, I try to imagine what it was like...for each of them individually, to have actually been there at the time. No matter how hard I try I will never know, like your worst nightmare coming to life right before your eyes. And now everything and everyone is different." Melanie Deininger College Station 12/15/2005 5:11:00 AM "Frank Grossi and Brian Harris of The Partnering Group announced a very special new program -- as a tribute to -- and in honor of our friend and partner, Tim Flannigan. Tim's contributions as a partner were detailed --- but his impact as a friend and mentor to so many of us was discussed with a great sense of pride and love. I wish I would have known this was going to happen because I would have recorded it for you. Frank's and Brian's comments were extemporaneous (sorry, no script to send either!) -- and, their comments were simply perfect. As part of their comments, they, on behalf of the TPG Board (Frank, Brian, John Dye and Bill Burns) announced the first ever partner recognition program in honor of Tim and the legacy he left at TPG. "The Flannigan Award" Purpose: To recognize Partners that demonstrate extraordinary leadership, team spirit and commitment for the betterment of other Partners, the firm and themselves. This award will be "reviewed periodically and only rewarded when extraordinary behavior is exhibited" by a Partner who consistently demonstrates the qualities that were so important, and, seeminly came so easy to Tim: Leadership: Guided by principles and good judgement, a role model for other Partners and clients. Team Spirit: Unselfish behavior. Always willing to assist others. Reliable and driven by collective vs. individual benefit. Commitment: Devoted to the firm and ensuring its success. Last night, the first ever Flannigan Award was presented to Eric Strobel for his unselfish commitment and contribution to TPG. It was a perfect choice -- and made us all proud; Eric has many of the same great qualities that we all loved and respected in Tim. I knew you would be appreciative and proud of this honor, as well. Smile, and know that we all loved Tim very much." Andy Heins San Antonio 12/9/2005 4:40:00 PM "Its so hard to believe that it has been 8 months since Tim was taken from our family, and as we sit here in our family room reliving that horrible night, I still can't believe he is gone from my life forever. It seems like only yesterday that he was here in the house working so hard to make a good life for us. We did have Thanksgiving dinner here at our home yesterday and it was so hard not to have Tim with us, he loved having people over for a celebration and over the past 28 years we did have one family tradition that we did every year. It was when we all sat down for the big turkey dinner we all had to say what we were Thankful for. This year was a challenge to have anything to say, but as we went around the table there was things to say like- Our Health, Our extended family, Our children. I am sure there are many things I should be thankful for but at the time I was at a loss to add anything except but to say that I wish Tim was with us. Today marks 8 months, 8 months ago my life changed forever, will I ever not have this feeling in my heart of a huge void, a missing chunk of myself gone. Will I ever not think of Tim the first thing in the morning,or think that I will see him and talk to him about what funny thing that happened to me at work or him telling me what he was working on at the time. He loved what he was doing with the Partnering Group, he really liked the people he worked with, he loved living in Austin, UT, our Sons, the dogs, he loved life in general, he was so full of life and looked forward to everyday, to a new adventure as he would call it, it is so unreal, so unbelievable. How will I go on? I wish I could find some reality in the deep loss that I feel, but that day has not come and I really don't know that it will or that I will feel some kind of peace. I hope and pray that Tim is OK, that he will give me the strength that I need in the coming months. Fondly, Susan (Mrs Timothy Flannigan) " Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 11/25/2005 10:25:00 PM "Today is our 29th wedding anniversay and needless to say I still can not believe my Husband is gone. I look at his face in all the pictures we have put up all around the house and I still see a man full of life, I miss him so much. I look at his son's and listen to their voices and I see and hear my Husband their Dad. How are we going to go on without him? I think and wonder everyday what will we do, but each day passes without him, I miss him so much... Fondly, Susan (Mrs. Timothy Flannigan)" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 11/13/2005 11:57:00 PM "Today is our 29th wedding anniversay and needless to say I still can not believe my Husband is gone. I look at his face in all the pictures we have put up all around the house and I still see a man full of life, I miss him so much. I look at his son's and listen to their voices and I see and hear my Husband their Dad. How are we going to go on without him? I think and wonder everyday what will we do, but each day passes without him, I miss him so much... Fondly, Susan (Mrs. Timothy Flannigan)" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 11/13/2005 11:57:00 PM "Today is our 29th wedding anniversay and needless to say I still can not believe my Husband is gone. I look at his face in all the pictures we have put up all around the house and I still see a man full of life, I miss him so much. I look at his son's and listen to their voices and I see and hear my Husband their Dad. How are we going to go on without him? I think and wonder everyday what will we do, but each day passes without him, I miss him so much... Fondly, Susan (Mrs. Timothy Flannigan)" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 11/13/2005 11:56:00 PM "Hi, Sue, I have never left a message but look frequently for yours. This last one is especially heart-rending. I am so glad over each step you take. I ask mom regulary about you. To hear of someone being so unbelievably generous is especially touching. Whether you sense it or not, I believe these generosities and kindnesses are touches of God's love for you. He wants you to know He is there, but we often in our situations do not see or feel, so He uses others in very special ways. Keep writing, and thank you for your clear ways of expressing yourself. It is so hard for people to be that open or expressive; I hope you realize what a special gift you have. O.K., O.K., I know you may not believe it, but it is true. Thanks for keeping up the correspondence with those that silently enter Tim's site and still gaze at his picture in disbelief. I always remember his sweet disposition, humor, and especially the smile that was always accompanied by a laugh. My best to you, Sue, and to Ken and Jim. Sheila" Sheila Vancouver, WA 10/28/2005 11:30:00 AM "Hello to all who are still visiting Tim's memorial site, As hard as it is to believe it has been seven months since I lost my Husband, Best friend, and Confidant. I still wake up in the morning with my first thoughts being of Tim and then it hits me like a bucket of ice water being thrown into my face that he is gone. I still talk to him everyday with the hope of getting a response, but that has not happened. I do into his favorite room daily, the pool room, and talk to him and ask for his help in dealing with the house and everything else in my life, but I get no response. I miss him so much and that when I hear the door opening from the garage coming into the family room I half expect it to be Tim. It is so hard to believe that a person with so much energy and life could be gone in a split second, I still can't believe it happened right in front of my face. Life is so precious, if I could only turn back the clock I would be a different person. It is a shame you really don't know what you have until you no longer have it. These last few weeks have been a huge reality check for me, I have had to learn how to change light bulbs, and I only got shocked once. I have caulked and painted trim. I have had to talk to workmen to get work done around the house. I have had to make a few phone calls and be pretty aggressive, it has been strange because Tim had always handled everything around the house, He would be home for his precious days off on the weekends and he would do all the things I could or would not do. No complaints, just make a list and it will get done. It seems so strange that a man that was so full of energy and life could be gone is a split second. That night is still so vivid in my mind, I will never forget how happy he was to be home, going out to dinner and watching a movie and preparing for Easter Sunday, it seems so unfair. Why Him???? This week I will be putting my house on the market, something I am not looking forward to, but I need to do this. My neighbor who is a real estate agent is a very positive person and tells me that the market is much better now. I have been getting the house ready, trying to keep up with the dust, it is a daily chore. I have met some pretty generous and kind people these last months, one in particular is someone my agent sent down last friday, to my house to give me an estimate on tree trimming on the front of my house so it would show better. As he was writing up the estimate to take out a huge tree and trim up two other trees and clean up some very heavy brush that had over grown and trim up 3 pine trees and take some dead branches off another tree, I was thinking "oh my god this is going to cost a fortune". As he was talking he asked me where my husband and I are planning to move to and I just looked at him and started crying. I then told him of my situation, on how I lost Tim and now I needed to sell our house, he then asked me what I felt was reasonable for the job and I told him I had no idea that I would show the estimate to my son and to my real estate agent and if they thought it was reasonable I would get it done. He then handed me the estimate and told me if this was OK that he would be back on Monday morning and get it all done. Well needless to say when I looked at the cost, and it had a N/C -Zero Balance, I couldn't believe it, I told him that it wasn't necessary and he said that I needed to know that there are still good people that care and want to help in some way. I was shocked, I have never met this man before and he did something so wonderful, he told me that in time I would understand why I am going through this and then I would understand my purpose in life. I didn't know what to think, I just broke down and cried. So on Monday morning he showed up with two workers and worked for about 5 hours. I offered to get them lunch and he said no that they had brought their lunches and water, that I didn't need to do anything. Can you believe that??? Everyday I miss Tim and hurt deeply for him, I miss everything about him even the silly little things that used to drive me crazy, I only wish I could have those days back again, but that is not to be, so I must go on for my children. I hope all is well with everyone, that know one is suffering or going through any sadness or pain, I wouldn't want that for anyone, so take care and if you feel up to it, log on to Tim's site and leave a memory of him, it helps me so much to know that people still care about him and not forget what a wonderful person he was. Fondly, Mrs. Timothy Flannigan (Susan) " Mrs. Timothy Flannigan (Susan) Austin, Texas 10/25/2005 10:08:00 PM "The Bishop O'Dowd High School Class of 1970 had its 35-year reunion on October 1 at the school. Those of us in attendance paused to remember Tim and the other classmates we have lost over the years. It was clear that Tim was held in high regard. Blessings to you and your family." Dennis Egan Washington, DC 10/11/2005 2:24:00 PM "Hi everyone, Just thought I'd update anyone who cares or wonders how Tim's family is doing.. Today I made a giant step and contacted a real estate agent here in Austin actually he is one of my neighbors here in River Place, his wife was wonderful to me and the family during the time after I lost Tim, she brought down meals and desserts alot.. Anyway we haven't met to discuss anything yet but he is very upbeat on how the market is right now and anxious to get together to get things going on putting the house up for sale. Part of me wish's I didn't have to sell this house, Tim loved this house so much and it was his last place he was on this earth, but I have to be realistic about my finances. I have also contacted the man who sold us our RV and asked him about how I should go about selling it. We had some very special memories in that RV. In the meantime, Ken and Michelle have found a beautiful place for their wedding reception, we all went over to the facility on wednesday because they had an open house. It was just beautiful. Its a Tuscany style building about 25 minutes from the church in the Hill country. Well worth the drive. Ken, Michelle and Jim are going up to Dallas this weekend for the Big Texas/OU game, they'll be back Sunday. I'm just going clean and straightenup around the house. I am back at Barnes and Noble working in the AM only Tuesday thru Friday, I'm home by 12:15 so it works out well, and I seem to talk about Tim alot to customers, its weird but I need to keep talking about Tim, its very comforting to me. Then I come home and see his picture and go back into my denial mode. I did have the interview on the news station kvue last thursday, I think I did well but the woman who interviewed me told me that she got alot of flack from the EMS community. They did not appreciate the way the segment went.. No kidding, they looked very flustered and were making alot of excuses about their time of arrival. The comment was these things happen! WOW!! Wait till it happens to someone they know and Love. It still amazes me that they still have an attitude that they did nothing wrong. Well I really appreciated the newscaster and the news station for having the guts to put the segment on TV, and I hope some good does come from it. Now my next mission is to find another way to spread my message about priority calls with the EMS, and what qualifies as a real 911 call and how should they respond to them time wise. When I went to the last homeowners meeting the main subject was the endangered Birds in this neighborhood and how you should call 911 if you see some bothering the endangered Birds, somehow I can't understand how important on a priority list that would come up over a real life or death situation. I hope someday I'll be able to understand what has happened to my family Love to all, Susan (Mrs. Timothy Flannigan) susan@sitestreet.com" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 10/7/2005 5:52:00 PM "Just an update on seeing the interview I had with the local news here in Austin about the night I lost Tim. Go to www.kvue.com then go to the local news and scroll down (to more) till you get to "Up Close-EMS Response Times. I hope you all think I did a good job, and did a good service to Tim. Fondly, Mrs. Timothy Flannigan" Mrs.Timothy Flannigan Austin,Texas 9/30/2005 6:32:00 PM "Well it is hard to believe that six months have passed since I last spoke or saw my husband Tim. The night he passed is still so vivid to me, the memories of that day are so strong that I still have a hard time believing he is gone. These last few days I have had strange experences with people at work. One day a man came in looking for a book on how to deal with his wife who was being very demanding and domminate to him. He said they had been married for 18 years and that he was lost in trying to figure her out, nothing pleased her, well nothing he did pleased her and he was feeling very anxious about it. I took him over to the section on depression and relationships, he turned to me and asked I suppose you never get anxious and snappy with your husband do you? I just looked at him told him that I had just lost my husband and yes I can relate to those feelings he was talking about then of couse I started crying, he didn't know what to do but he did say that he hadn't planned talking to anyone about his problem but felt a strong need when he saw me to tell me about he and his wife. By then my manager came over and this man told him what had happened that he did not know me before today but felt that it was meant to happen. I felt such strong feeling of needing Tim at that moment, to talk to him and tell him about it, but I couldn't. The next day as I was standing at the information counter at work again, an older man walked up to me and started to give me a hard time about big business and how they don't give a darn about the average person. I just stood there looking at him wondering why he felt the need to tell me this when all of a sudden he told me about his wife who had passed away two weeks ago and this was the first time he had left his house and was just wandering around filling his time. I just looked at him and felt the tears just rolling down my face, he asked had someone been giving me a hard time and I said no that I had just lost my husband. My manager walked up just then and told me to go take a break, which I did. When I returned to the information counter their was a card waiting for me. The man left me a card that said thank you for listening and sharing. I don't know what is going on that I seem to draw people to me with their heartache but it is happening. Sometimes I think Tim is standing their with me while I deal with these tough days and other times I feel so all alone. I also wonder if I went back to work to soon! Another thing happened to me, last night while I was watching TV the cable went out and I couldn't figure out how to fix it, so I went up to my bedroom and turned on the TV and it went on. This was the first time in six months that I went to my room to watch TV, I then had carried the dogs upstairs and put them on the bed and before I knew it I fell asleep. The next morning I called cable and the girl walked me through restarting my TV and nothing was working so she then asked if it was plugged in, and I checked and it wasn't. I think Tim wanted me back in our bed, that enough time had passed and that I didn't need to sleep on the sofa anymore. Well anyway thats what I think.. I am so alone in this big house I wonder what am I going to do, the process of putting the house on the market drains me, just thinking about it, I also have to sell the RV, but there are so many happy memories of the trips we took and the trips we were going to take that it confuses me on what I should do.I am wanting and hoping for Tim to come to me in my dreams to guide me in what I need to do, but it hasn't happened yet. This week the TV newscaster emailed me that the report she has been working on about the poor response of the EMS that horrible night in March, should be on Thursday, September 29th, on the 10 o'clock news. The reporters name is Clara Tuma and it is on KVUE and ABC affilate. I hope if you log on to their web site under-Defenders. www.kvue.com I'm a little nervous about seeing it on TV but I hope it shows that this could happen to anyone. Having a 22 minute response time is not right and then their response to Ms. Tuma when she interviewed the media person from EMS was that it was a busy night. They also said the issue of charging a ambulance fee is standard, that even though they did not transport Tim they still can charge the user fee. Well I guess I vented long enough and I don't know that it helps me or anyone else, but I feel I must not let this go, to let this go would be a slap in the face of my wonderful husband who I feel would do the same for me. Please share your feelings it helps me to know that Tim is not forgotten. Fondly, Mrs. Timothy Flannigan (Susan) susan@sitestreet.com " Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Austin, Texas 9/25/2005 3:40:00 PM "I know this isn't the 6th month anniversary of losing Tim but a few things have happened this month that cannot wait. Tuesday September 6th I received a call from my sister-in-law, Tim's sister Sharon, to tell me about the death of Tim's younger brother Pat, who was 50 years old the baby of the family. He was at work and just collapsed while helping a customer. His wife Jenny was right there to start the CPR and the ambulance was there in minutes. But it was too late, this perfectly healthy man was gone. It was only 5 months before Pat had been at my home helping me in any way he could because I had just lost my husband, his brother. At the time everyone was so in shock about Tim that you couldn't imagine this happening again and so soon. I left the next day to be with my Mother-in-law and sisters-in -law Sherry and Sheila. They all three seemed to be in shock and I felt that needed to be there to help them in any way I could, but these women were so concerned about me that I had to do whatever I could, we mostly talked about Pat and Tim and cried a lot too. I just couldn't get over the fact that this was some kind of punishment for something I had done, but they assured me that was not it, then what was going on with this family? A family who were so good to all people, who never said cross words to anyone, who were so honest with all people, I really need to have answers to this, bitterness keeps trying to creep into my mind and the level of anger is unbelievable.. How can I go on ?? I miss Tim so much, I still wait for the phone to ring so I can hear his voice, or hear the door open and then I know he is home for the weekend. Football season is now starting and that was some of the best times of our lives, Tim enjoyed going to those UT games and having a blast with his sons, then walking back to the RV for some more partying with who ever would drop by. Most nights one of the last things we did before we fell asleep was take the puppies for one last walk. That was a wonderful time. So much have changed from this time last year, but I know for a fact I will never forget the great family bonding that we all had together. Well it looks like my TV interview is moving right along, I spoke to the newswoman who is doing the segment and she called to let me know she is interviewing the EMS services tomorrow. That should be interesting. I want to thank the two most recent thoughts and memories that were left on this memorial site for Tim. It truly does help me and both of my sons. Please take care all. Fondly, Mrs. Timothy Flannigan (Susan) susan@sitestreet.com" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan austin 9/15/2005 12:18:00 AM "Susan: I was saddened to learn of Tim's passing when I read his brother Pat's obituary recently in the online Hayward (Calif.) Daily Review. Tim and I were classmates at Bishop O'Dowd High School in Oakland, and once played in a band together with Pat and John Martinez. Tim was one of my close friends during our high school years. I can tell that he touched the hearts of many during his life. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. " Dennis Egan Washington, DC 9/14/2005 11:07:00 AM "Susan, Jim, and Ken, As you may remember, I worked with Tim at TPG and spoke at his funeral. I wanted to stop by the site to let you know that he is still thought of warmly and often throughout the group and our clients...and will never be forgotten. We often remark about how we miss him in a meeting, or share a funny story of a time we had spent with Tim. We even talk about how we have kept his email address in our emails, or his number in our cell phones, or even an old email message to remind ourselves of his legacy. Our clients also often mention him, say how they admired him, and ask about his family. I know that as time passes, it may seem that you are the only ones really keeping his memory alive. I just wanted you to know that while we cannot really know your pain, you are not alone in remembering Tim. God bless you all, Tammy " Tammy Montero Houston TX 9/8/2005 1:21:00 PM "Well it has been five months since Tim left us all and I am sad to say that life still goes on for everyone else. I was gone to california for about two months visiting our families and then came back to austin with my younger sister Barb who had planned to get me organized enough to put my house on the market but I am just not ready to do that just yet, We did do alot of constructive things around my home and that does help. But now I am here in my home just trying to figure out how to just go on with life, this is very difficult. Jim is doing well at his company getting new business all the time so needless to say he is very busy. Ken is heading into his last semester at school and will be taking his tests to be certified to do architecture and just recently was hired to work in a architecture firm here in Austin. He is very excited about what the future may hold for him. he has also asked his girlfiend of ten years to marry him, so he has many things to look forward to. But both of my sons are still dealing with the loss of their dad. They both were very close to Tim and both of them wonder why, why did it happen to their dad and was there anything thing that could have been done. As for myself, well I wake up everyday with the feeling that this all has been a very bad dream that I have been having and then it dawns on me that it is just still another day I have got to try to make it through mainly for my kids. Last Night I decided I was going to speak about what had happened to Tim to an annual homeowners meeting. So I took the day to write out what had happened with the 911 services that night and got up and spoke to a group of about 100 residents. Jim was with me for moral support and told me I did a fantastic job, I almost feel that Tim was standing with me as I spilled my guts to these total strangers to hopefully get some attention to the problem we have in this community so that this does not happen to anyone else. I also have been in contact with a local news reporter about what happened and she is getting with he boss to get the go ahead to do a story on Tim. I know some people probably will think I am going alittle to far with this but I truly feel that if Tim was in my place he would be doing the same thing for me. I can't dishonor my husband by forgetting what has happened to him so I will so everything possible to keep his memory alive. I have also decided that I need to go back to work part time at the job I had before all this happened. I went and visited with my old boss at Barnes & Noble and she offered me my job back. I will be working the same hours and days as before. I am alittle nervous about going back but she told me just to do one day at a time. I know I am pretty lucky because that was pretty much a dream job for me. I know where ever Tim is he is surely happy about this, he liked me to get out of the house to do something I really loved. Well I guess I updated anyone who is interested in what is going on with my little family here in Austin. I hope all is well with everyone who is continueing to keep in touch with Tim, my Sons and I, Please take care and every so often leave alittle message because we do read them daily, it does help us. Fondly, Susan (Mrs. Timothy Flannigan)" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan (Susan) Austin, Texas 8/26/2005 8:09:00 AM "Here I am sitting a a computer at my sister Barbs house in Dublin, California and thinking about how unbelievable it is that Tim has been gone for Four months. I still cannot believe he is gone, it seems like a blurry memory. I still go over that night when I witnessed my Husbands last breath. It just seems like Tim is on one of his extended business trips and every time the phone rings I think it will be Tim. I have been here in California for almost two months just being with our families, I feel so alone even though I am never without someone in our family with me. But now I know that I must return to Texas. My sister Barb is driving back with me to help me get my home ready to put on the market, it will be tough to get through those days ahead of me. I hope all is well with all of Tim's co-workers and everyone is staying healthy. My family here in California seem to be going on with their lives and it is hard to see that life still goes on even when you lose someone that is so loved by so many. I do miss Tim, and it seems like everywhere I look it reminds me of him. We lived in California the first 10 years of our marriage so I do have so many memories here but I also have 18 years of marriage living in Texas. Tim loved living in Texas and he really loved living in Austin, I only wish that he could have had more time there, he loved our house in Austin, he thought of it as our dream home. Please keep posting on this site, it helps me so much to read many different messages people send and I will keep putting my thoughts and memories as long as it is up. Much Love to all! Susan (Mrs. Timothy Flannigan)" Mrs. Timothy Flannigan Dublin, California 7/25/2005 7:58:00 PM "Susan, Jim and Ken, I am an Associate of the Sisters of the Holy Family. Thank you for your note in response to the memorial I made to the Sisters in Tim's memory. I have known Sr. Sharon for many years and I ask God's healing grace for you, her and all of Tim's family. My husband died 25 years ago at age 45 after 25 years of marriage. I empathize with you and your grief. Faith, memories and the comfort of family and friends and time do help to ease the pain and bring healing, but it does take time. May you be blessed with all of these. In Christ's love - Pat" Pat Petit Rapid City, SD 7/13/2005 11:32:00 PM "Today it has been three months since Tim was taken from my sons ands me. As I type this message it is still hard to believe that he is gone forever. I think about him every day and dream about him every night. My dreams are so real and vivid that when I do wake up in the morning my first thoughts are of Tim and then I realize that it was just a dream. I miss him so much, I feel such pain when I see couples together holding hands and wish it was Tim with me. I am in California visiting with both our families and it hurts to see that life goes on even without the person you loved so much, I don't know how I will get through these days ahead. The other day I was when I was at my Mother-in-laws house and my sister-in-law and I were talking and she laughed and she sounded just like Tim and it made me tear up, that laugh that some of Tim's co-workers talked about, the same laugh. My mother-in-law has a huge picture of Tim on a table in her family room, the picture of Tim that I stare at looking at his beautiful blue eyes and smile, I just smile remembering Tim. On fathers day I went to my dads house and as I walked into their living room there was a picture of Tim and me and the boys, a family photo about 15 years ago, we looked so happy, I will miss that so much. I have been rereading some of the beautiful cards that have been sent to me, the wonderful words that have been written about the man I married 28 years ago, stories of Tims adventures while traveling with his partners at the Partnering Group. I am so glad he had these wonderful men and women he worked with to spend time with while he was working. He would dalways tell me that we were going to go to some of these places together because he knew that I would enjoy these cities too. When he went to Europe he would tell me that I would love it there, that we could have a great time. He had talked about taking both the boys to Europe, having a trip together, He had been saving his airmiles so they could go first class. That was a plan he would say. I still check this site every chance I get to see if anyone has logged on to leave a message, not wanting the memory of my husband to go away to be forgotten, and I will continue to post here, and vent when I need to, and hope that Tim can feel my need for him as I sit and type in my thoughts and memories of him and how much I miss him, I hope he can feel and understand what I am going through, hopefully someday I will know. If you are reading these messages and know a wonderful story or memory of Tim, please post..It helps me so much to read these. Again thanks so much for all the cards and letters and flowers and donations that have been sent in Tims memory. Much Love to All, Mrs. Timothy Flannigan (Susan) " susan flannigan Dublin, California 6/25/2005 1:32:00 PM "Jimmy, I am sorry to hear about your loss. Thank you for the courtesies you have passed on to me in the past. My condolenses go out to you, and all of your family members, several of which are friends of mine. A very nice job has been done on your tribute to your father." Gary Lewandowski Fort Worth, TX 6/16/2005 1:42:00 PM "I didn't know Tim, but am a friend of Sheila's, and asked to see the website. You've done a beautiful job. It's a wonderful tribute to Tim. The photos really gave me a sense of who he was, and how much he must be missed. Sandy" Sandy Carlson Portland, Or 6/6/2005 5:38:00 PM "Susan, It was good to see you, Ken & Michelle, and Jimmy (OK, Katie, Mikey, Lucy & Cal, too) over the weekend. Just wondering, do you think Tim and Mauricio are playing pool or building a room above right now? Much love, Kathleen" Kathleen San Ramon 5/27/2005 8:55:00 AM "Today is the two month anniversary of Tim's passing, and I am sitting here in the same place as I was two months ago. I miss Tim so much, I hope and pray he is in a better place then in this agony of a loss so deep. I never really thought that I would have to handle all that was left behind, as the days go by I am forced to move on. I hope people who knew Tim are still coming back to this site and I hope they will leave their thoughts and memories of Tim to share with my sons and I. Even as I write this message it is still so very hard to realize that Tim is gone forever, I can still picture him that last night he was alive and happy as we went to dinner then to Central Market to buy more pasta for our Easter dinner. How happy he was because he had found this wonderful wine to celebrate with some friends that sunday. How we joked on the way home and then sitting with our younger son Ken and his girlfriend Michelle to watch a movie that I had taped for him earlier in that week. One hour later Tim was gone. What could I have done? I ask myself everyday, I ask that to both of my doctors and I ask everyone else that I speak to, Everyone tells me the same, that there was nothing, but I still beat myself up everyday because it was so sudden and fast. I Loved Tim and I wish I could have told him that alot more than at the end of a phone call when he was traveling on business. I wish he was here with me right now so I could tell him I LOVE YOU.. and that I MISS YOU.... Today I was told that it was a blessing if a bird builds a nest above your front door, and believe it or not as I walk out my front door a bird has built a nest above my front door. Maybe a sign from Tim, Maybe a Blessing, Maybe just a bird building a nest for her eggs. I don't know, but I want to believe its a sign and a blessing from Tim. Love to all, Mrs. Timothy Flannigan " susan flannigan austin 5/25/2005 9:35:00 PM "This is my first time on this site. I wasn't going to write anything yet, but then I read Susan's messages and so here I am writing a little something. It is impossible for me to imagine what all of you have been through. All I can say is "I hope my thoughts of you help at least a little." " Petra Kuite Austin, TX 5/18/2005 4:01:00 PM "Susan, Your site is a wonderful tribute to a special man. May god be with you and all your family. Charmaine" Charmaine Port Orchard, WA. 5/12/2005 3:30:00 PM "Thinking of you, Susan, and praying that God will help you over the rough spots. My Bill has been gone for eight years now, and I feel he is with me every day....your Tim is with you every day, too. Believe it. Love, Dottie, Daisy, Lily" Dottie Minor San Antonio, Texas 5/10/2005 7:46:00 AM "Thinking of you, Susan, and praying that God will help you over the rough spots. My Bill has been gone for eight years now, and I feel he is with me every day....your Tim is with you every day, too. Believe it. Love, Dottie, Daisy, Lily" Dottie Minor San Antonio, Texas 5/10/2005 7:46:00 AM "As I sit with my son Ken and his girlfriend on this friday night .I think if how we take life for granted, To think just six weeks ago at about this time we had settled down to watch a movie that my life was on the course of disstruction. As I sit in this family room where my husband was taken from me and his children was when I new I would never be the same.I still keep hoping he'll walk through the back with that big smile of his with the dogs barking like crazy Wanting no more the a pat on the head from their daddy.. I do want to thank everyone who has posted on this site for TIM but actually it has been for me , I look forword everyday to be able to read the stories you all had that I never new about Tim, it really makes me feel a sort of peace about him not being here with his family. So thank you again, and please keep posting. Much Love to all. Mrs Timothy Flannigan and puppies" susan flannigan austin 5/6/2005 9:36:00 PM "I am one of the recent additions to the TPG team, having been invited to join the team about one year ago. During the past several months, I had the opportunity to engage in several great conversations with Tim. He was the first TPG Partner to welcome me into the group at the annual meeting in Miami, and we talked at length over dinner the evening we met. More recently, we met in the TPG office in Cincinnati.....he was full of enthusiasm and heading off to investigate the largest grocery retail facility in the area after getting directions from his TPG colleagues. His very engaging personality and sincere interest in exploring how we could work together in expanding TPG's success were very evident. Tim's smile and positive attitude were simply contagious, and he will certainly be missed by his teammates. God's plans for each of us and our loved ones are difficult to understand at times....yet knowing that our stay here is ultimately a short one gives us comfort in the fact that we will be reunited forever when our work here is complete. Please find comfort in knowing that Tim's personal and professional legacies are strong and memorable examples of a life well-lived!" Dave Evans Middletown, OH 5/3/2005 10:25:00 AM "I just met Tim once earlier this year for a training in my company, when he probably made the most insightful comment I've received in a long time, making me to re-think the way I'm approaching my career and what I'm asking and expecting all my people to do. One small comment reminded me why I chose my career in the first time and is now also making a huge difference in how more than 15 people working for me are chaging the way to look the business. That's a huge difference!" Rodolfo Spielmann Pittsburgh 4/28/2005 9:40:00 AM "Hello Susan & family, I have been avoiding this note, as I do not like confronting death as we humans know it. I believe in ever lasting life and spirit even on earth as it is in heaven. Tim is still with us all. We just can not touch him physically. We can still talk with him, laugh with him, smile with him, be guided by him, coached by him, and feel his love, enthusiam, and energy. I knew Tim for a short 2 years. I really enjoyed working with him and learned much from him. He took me under his wing on my very first consulting job in Boise, ID working for Power Bar. We had dinner on several occasions and talked about the consulting life and life in general. Tim helped be get grounded with the consulting way of life and in the basics of consulting. I will always appreciate that of him. We later worked together on Sarah Lee, Winn Dixie, and J&J Rome Summit. All very positive experiences and a continued building of our relationship. I am a family man, married 31 years with 4 grown children, but I commit myself to my work. This is because of my wife and my family. This is my purpose in life. Tim was of the same nature and focus. During our conversations, it was clear that Tim had a mission in life. To provide the very best for his wife and his family. He felt good about what he had accomplished, but wanted to do more. He wanted it to be the best it could be in typical Tim fasion in all that he did! Tim spoke of reuniting his family in Austin, making sure that his wife had quality activities to do while he was away, and looking forward to the weekends at home. He was happy and is happy today. I am not big on scripture quoting, but this scripture captures Tim in so many ways of his life for me. Matthew 5:16 "Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in Heaven." He truely "Let his Light Shine" for all of us and it is still glowing today! Just look at the picture on this page! We are blessed to have lived with Tim and to still have him to encourage us, coach us, and "Shine Light" on the way. Please email or call if there is anything I can help you or your family with during this transition. Joe Doner 513-257-4917 " Joe Doner Cincinnati, OH 4/26/2005 12:55:00 AM "Dear Everyone who new my Husband and had a special memory of him: Today is April 25th 2005 one month ago today I lost my husband of 28 years. I still can't believe it, I still expect him to walk in the back door late on a friday night hearing the puppies greet him after a week of traveling in his job he loved so much. I miss hearing him walking up and down the stairs never really sitting down just to relax, he was a working machine, I miss hearing him in his office on his computer or talking on the phone doing what he loved the most his job at TPG. I miss telling him to slow down when he was driving, I miss our Saturday nights when we would have steak and salad and watch a movie that I would have picked out. Usually with both of us falling asleep in front of the TV. I miss having my coffee already made for me on the weekends even though Tim was only drinking Tea,(no caffeine the Doctor told him), even in the mornings that he was home he would carry the dogs downstairs to save my back alittle. I going to miss our special UT weekends where we would pack the RV and spend the weekend parked enjoying the company of our kids and their friends and all the other RVers around us party and eat and listen to the games going on TV then the guys would go to the game and I would stay at the RV with the puppies. I going to miss our many Christmas trips to California to spend time with both our families. How am I ever going to be able to go on without him, How are my sons going to go on without their Dad who was the person they could confide in and ask for advise for business, school and life. How are we going to move on ? As I sit in my family room surrounded by the puppies in this home that Tim loved so much and had so many plans for I realize my live will be totally changed without Tim, I am grateful for my children but I am forever changed. We had many plans for all the years we still had together, I guess you never really know how much time on earth you really have and you should enjoy everyday with your loved one's because it could be gone in a second. I used to joke with Tim about spending money on something he wanted something for his office or new running shoes. And I would tell him get it because you don't know what is coming tommorrow. How true that was for us. I guess these are the things I think about mostly these days and who knows what the next few weeks will bring. But I do want to thank all the people, co-workers, friends and family who have put their own thoughts here because these do help me on a daily basis to try and get through each day I must check this site at least 20 times a day.I actually watch for the mailman to see if I get a card, It almost helps me think that Tim is still alittle around me. I am so grateful for this site, it has helped me realize what people really thought about Tim, my Husband. Much Love To All, Mrs Timothy Flannigan Katy, Mikey and Lucy " SusanFlannigan Austin, Texas 4/25/2005 11:58:00 AM "Mr. Flannigan (no matter how many times he asked, I could never call him Tim) was the most positive person I ever knew. When I first met him, though, I always saw him in a suit, coming home from work, or in his band parent shirt, accompanying us at various band functions. In my eyes, he was a businessman and a chaperon, two very intimidating kinds of people to a fifteen-year-old girl. As the years passed, and I spent more time with the family, I got to know Mr. Flannigan as more than just a businessman and chaperon; I saw him as a dad to Ken and Jimmy, as a husband to Mrs. Flannigan (I cant call her Susan, either), as a friend to my parents, as a son, an uncle and a brother. The intimidation was firmly set in place, however, and I could not overcome it. Ken thought I was absolutely ridiculous. He could not understand how I could be so uncomfortable around his dad. Mr. Flannigan was always very nice to me; he even invited me on family functions and vacations. The problem was that I wanted so badly for him to like me. I knew Ken liked me, Mrs. Flannigan and I had bonded and were friends, I even had a connection with Jimmy, but I just couldnt tell with Mr. Flannigan. I felt I had to be perfect in every way so as not to give him a reason to dislike me. Perfection is a daunting task that I am afraid I could never have accomplished. Luckily, a situation arose that made my strategy unnecessary. One night, while tailgating at a UT game, Ken decided that the three of us, Mr. Flannigan, Ken and myself, should play some drinking games. Now, from the moment of suggestion, one thought was going through my head, Michelle, you cant make an idiot of yourself in front of Mr. Flannigan. I decided to regulate how much I drank, then feign a headache so I could just watch, allowing myself to have fun and also maintain some dignity. I should have known, having played these games with Ken before, that my plan was doomed to failure, but off we went. Before long, we were all laughing a lot more and finding shuffling quite a bit harder. Mr. Flannigan turned to me, laughing his great laugh, and said, I have never seen you like this. Sober Michelle would have cringed at this comment, but inebriated Michelle said, Ive never seen you like this, and laughed back. And that was that. It turns out that all I needed was to let my guard down a little so we could get to know each other. We spent much of that night ganging up on and teasing Ken, a past time that Mr. Flannigan and I enjoyed very much, especially when the target included Mrs. Flannigan. After that night, my trepidation vanished. He was all the things he had always been but, most important to me, he was also my friend. We had many more nights like the one that fall, but none will ever be as special to me as that one. I cannot think of the words to describe how my life has changed in the past month. Tim Flannigan was not my father, but he was more to me than simply my boyfriends dad. He was a man that I loved and respected with almost as much fervor as I do my own father. He made me laugh and he made me feel strong and he treated me like a daughter. I will miss him always. One night, a few days before his 53rd birthday, Mr. Flannigan was doing laundry and came out of the laundry room shaking his head and laughing. I was the only one in the living room, so I turned to see what was so funny. Chuckling, he said, Michelle, you want to write kids books, right? I nodded, smiling that he remembered. You should write a book about a monster that lives in the dryer and eats socks. I would love to know where they go. On that note, I better get going. I have some theories to work on " Michelle Deininger Austin, TX 4/24/2005 10:21:00 PM "My Friend Tim Flannigan Tim and I had worked together on many different projects, but one project in particularSmeadbrought us truly closer. The long drive to this customer had us sharing personal storiesof family, children and aspirations. He spoke often and highly of his familyhow Sue and he met, their move to Austin, his incredible pride for his sons. I often referred to Tim as a Process Map. Indeed, he was always organized, pulled together, happy and calm. He would always greet me with the biggest enthusiastic smile. When one saw this smile one got the sense that the world was a great place, that all was good. I privately referred to his reception of me as the Tim Shuttlea reference to the shuttle busses we often took at the airports we traveled. I had never seen Tim get upset or madexcept once. We both had a three-hour layover. Waiting in the airport for my flight home, I was adamant that Tim should spend $50 to upgrade to business class for his five-hour long haul to Los Angeles. This was a hard sellit took all of the three hours to convince him! Eventually, he caved in and approached the airline desk to pay the upgrade charge. But instead of an upgrade, they refused the request and put him in a middle seat in coach! I never saw Tim so flustered and angry! He stormed into the lounge and needed two glasses of wine to calm down. I couldnt help but laugh at the whole situation. Tim didnt see it at the time, but I didfor Tim had shown his vulnerable, sensitive side. I indicated to him that he was only human, its okay to get upset, and that I was actually glad that, after five years, he had finally shown me this side of him. I am withholding tears as I reflect on Tim--a great business partner, a teacher, a confidant, and most importantly a good friend. Landing in Minneapolis will never be the same for me, for every time I disembark the airplane Ill be looking around, expecting that contagious smile on the Tim Shuttle. " Farla Efros Toronto, Canada 4/21/2005 1:41:00 PM "Like many of those writing here, I only knew Tim a short time. I will say that his memorial was - by far - the toughest I've ever attended. Many memorials and funerals have services where some of the things said about the individual who has passed are, shall I say, a bit exaggerated. But it's that person's last rites and that's okay with everyone for the most part. What made Tim's memorial so tough was that everything said about him - from his family and closest friends and co-workers to individuals whom only spent a small amount of time with him - was the honest truth. It just hit me that here's this guy who - somehow in this day and age - was able to manage one of life's biggest mysteries: How to balance family and career. Somehow Tim Flannigan figured it out. If you attended the memorial or have listened to the audio on this site, you probably came away with the feeling that this man didn't drop the ball on ANYONE. Wow. It's very humbling to me. My biggest regret is that Tim didn't write a "Life For Dummies" book before he passed. It goes without saying that Tim left too soon. At 53, he potentially had only lived half his life. I don't know who to be angry at, but I'm angry nonetheless. I have to say that while I am a dedicated father who loves his kids and makes them a top priority in my life, if my kids say even half of the powerful things I heard Jim and Ken say about their father at his memorial, I will have died a very, very happy man. Rest in peace, Tim. You left a legacy of memories and a lot for many of us to think about in your short time on earth, and you will be sorely missed...even though you didn't write that Dummies book for us." Rick Tracewell (Tim's Son-in-Law) Grass Valley, CA 4/21/2005 11:22:00 AM "In the short time I knew Tim, I learned quickly to respect his wisdom, his positive outlook on life, and to appreciate his humor. He was devoted to his family, respected by all of us at Smead and appreciated by all who knew him. He will be sorely missed by all. Al Arends" Al Arends HAstings, MN 4/21/2005 8:36:00 AM "I am a new Partner at TPG, and I met Tim on my first day of work last fall. I was immediately impressed by both his competence and his willingness to help me get started in the group. That brief encounter really helped me feel more comfortable. We worked together a couple of other times, and each time I was more impressed. I am disappointed not to have had the opportunity to know him better, but I know his absence will be felt in the group for years. My prayers go out to the family. " John Prittie Lebanon, Indiana 4/19/2005 10:48:00 PM "Sue & Family -I was so very sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers are with you all. I met Tim through you, Sue, and knew right away you had found the one for you. It was no secret how he felt about his family. It seemed his mission in life was to work hard to provide for you and spoil you. He just took it all in stride. It was just the way he was. No matter how life challenged him, he met it and succeeded. He just did what needed to be done. I remember when Kenny was about 4 or 5 and you were living in San Ramon. We were visiting inside and Tim was playing darts in the garage. Out of the blue Kenny ran in front of him and he ended up hitting Kenny in the cheek. We heard the car leave but thought nothing of it. He just bundled Kenny up and took him to the emergency clinic before you could get hysterical. When they got back Kenny was happy with his sucker and after you calmed down Tim just looked at you and said everything was okay and they would have to be more careful when playing darts. It was all just matter-of-fact. He just did what needed to be done. Like always, he looked at the situation, took control and dealt with it. He was definitely someone that could be counted on, no matter what the situation. He was a remarkable man and will be missed by all who knew him. Love to you and your family, Rita " Rita Ralston Mountain House, CA 4/19/2005 5:53:00 PM "I am one of the newer partners with TPG, and upon coming aboard was looking forward to working with Tim. For the short time that I knew Tim, I could see that he had a great sense of humor, a zest for life, and a love for his family. He was always smiling and that betrayed to me a heart of both love and decency. How could we know that this would be all I would experience of him first hand, and yet I could see his magnetism would have its impact on many. Many blessings to you as you reflect upon the life that is still with us, having had moments with Tim. Life is all the more rich as a result of having know him even for a short time!" Stephen Peele Mason, Ohio 4/17/2005 12:42:00 PM "I'm one of the TPG Partners who lives and works in the UK. As I'm based 'on the other side of the pond' I didn't work with Tim a lot but when I did it was very rewarding, both professionally and socially. We first worked together on a small piece of work for a big petrol forecourt retailer. It was the first time that we'd worked for them, so we had to impress them. I've never worked in Retail so I relied on Tim's retailing expertise to get us through. The work needed to be done quickly and despite it being the first time we had worked together Tim was so easy to work with, working fantastically in a team environment and being so sympathetic to my relative lack of knowledge in the area. I came away from the experience a lot richer in terms of my own capability and I know that I can now speak with authority on aspects of Retailing, which I couldn't before. I was also with Tim and the gang in Rome. I guess it's no surprise that the work we all did together was excellent, but it was the evenings that I remember with fondness. When you've been working so hard for a client, from 7am to 7pm, it's so important to be able to relax and have some fun with friends in the evening. Every evening in Rome was a sheer delight. Tim's great smile is part of it, but Tim had an aura about him that made other people feel relaxed, comfortable, as if you'd known him for years, even if it was actually the first time we'd really met. Tim was a lovely, genuine bloke - a friend from that first beer!. We will miss him in England. Ian" Ian Hogg London England 4/17/2005 11:47:00 AM "It hurt me to not be present at Tims funeral to personally pay respect to a man that I hold in such high regard. However, after much soul searching, my wife asked a simple question; What would Tim have wanted you to do? Accordingly, I went off to the client - as Tim would have wanted. Tim Flannigan was one of the finest people that it has been my privilege to know. Personally and professionally he excelled in all aspects of his life. If he was not dazzling clients and co-workers, he was boasting of his loving wife, his hard working and intelligent sons, and yes, even the dogs. While many of my peers may share separate Tim stories, and there are many wonderful stories, I wish only to share my final memory of Tim. At the end of last week, Tim, Bill Morgan and I had dinner at a restaurant in the middle of Nowhere, Oklahoma. The dinner was special because it was good (a hard thing to find in Oklahoma) and because of the company. It is hard to explain the comfort that one gets as menus are opened, and without conversation, we already know. Tim will have the fish. Bill will have the pork chops if they are as Cajun as they claim them to be. And Frame will most likely have the steak. If he has a glass of wine, Tim will have only one. Bill will have a glass of wine, maybe hell have a second. And Frame will always have a second glass of wine. Living away from home, as much as we do, these rare consistencies begin to feel like family. And we have been blessed to have Tim as a part of ours. His memory will always be part of us. " Peter Frame Wapakoneta, OH - member of The Partnering Group 4/17/2005 11:39:00 AM "Some years ago, I was a guest at a friend's home for Thanksgiving as were the Flannigans. Tim asked me what I had brought for dinner and I told him I had brought the turkey dressing, but in two different serving bowls. I told him one was just plain old stuffing and the other had a little pizzaz. He preferred to call it "exciting" dressing and would ask me on other occasions if I was still making "exciting" dressing. I think that the word "exciting" is characteristic of Tim Flannigan. He found people exciting, the work he did every day exciting; in short, all of life was exciting to Tim. In treasuring his memory, maybe we can all try a little harder to celebrate the exciting times in our lives. Thanks, Jimmy for giving us a chance to remember your Dad in a special way. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Pat Peak" Pat Peak San Antonio, Texas 4/17/2005 12:07:00 AM "As I sit in front of the t.v. at the exact time TIM was taken from me and our family I can't help to wonder why. I thank God that my son Ken and his girlfriend michelle were with us. This is a man who loved being with his family either out to dinner or to a UT football game. This is a man who's whole goal in life was to make me happy and feel loved. It has been three weeks but it feels like yesterday that we were joking about buying a new SUV because I was having so hard of a time getting around Austin, he even joked about about getting me a hummer so I could be safe. He just told me to research it on the internet and try and find what I would like. Also that night we were joking about me having plastic surgery, he said if I wanted it to go and get it. I think now he was so unselfish and loving that it took him to pass away for me to really understand his love for me. I miss him everyday, even though he traved alot he would call every night to check in to see if I was feeling OK. Or listening for him to come home on the weekends late on friday and still finding time to work and still have time to eat and talk with me. He would always ask about the boys and would love when they came over or wanted to shoot alittle pool. I miss so many things about Tim that I know my life will never be the same again. I am thankful for my family my Dad my sisters and brother and neices and nephew and Tims Mom and sisters and Brothers. and the nieces and nephews that I have. I am thankful for my daughter kristi son-in-law rick and their 5 children,Morgan,kelsey,nico,kolby and gianna.. I am thankful for the friends we had together and the neighbors who have called and visited and brought us dinner. A special thanks to all the wonderful men and women who have worked with Tim. It is so wonderful to hear your stories and the great times you had with Tim, things I've never heard before. But My heart will be broken forever and I just need to know that Tim is in heaven with his Dad and my Mom and that someday we will all be together. Please keep on writing your memories of Tim because it really does help us to hear how much you cared for him. Love to all, Mrs. Timothy Flannigan" susan flannigan austin, Texas 4/15/2005 10:15:00 PM "TIM FLANNIGAN And How I Most Like to Remember Him When I first think of Tim, what I think about is not his great work ethic; not the quality of his thinking; and not his wonderful ability to interact and have credibility with others. But, it is, simply, his laugh. A laugh I always wanted to hear in every conversation we had. His laugh said so much about him. A laugh that was sincere. A laugh with substance, but not overdone. A laugh that made you know he listened to you, cared about you. A laugh that portrayed so well an unselfish man, a man with comfortable confidence, a man you simply wanted to know. Yes, Tim and his laugh, for me, will long be remembered. With a smile. Eric Strobel 3/28/2005 " Eric Strobel Chicago -- Memeber of The Partnering Group 4/14/2005 7:14:00 AM "Tim was truly an inspiration to me. He was a great teacher, learner, communicator and listener. His enthusiasm for life, business and his family made him someone that I wanted to be around as much as possible. My fondest memories of Tim are the times that we spent together in the mornings working out prior to client meetings...during these runs, we talked about our latest challenges; latest accomplishments; business issues; our families. I will miss my friend Flannigan, but am very grateful for the time he spent on this earth. God bless." Doug Morrison Chicago Illinois 4/13/2005 9:59:00 AM "I had the pleasure of getting to know Tim in several capacities over the last 10 + years. I knew him as a customer, a peer, a boss and as a friend. He was kind, intuitive, honest and always genuinely interested in me as a person. He was so proud of his wife and family and talked about each of you often. One memorable moment that Tim and I shared involved a trip to visit a factory that I represented in the Northeast. The small private jet was just about to take off the ground when we were startled by alarms and bells and trusted forward as the jet aborted its take off. After the Jet had come to a dramatic halt , Tim looked out the window and noticed that we were about 2 yards from the end of the runway. Looks like we stayed out of the tomorrows headlines he said. We I said, Tomorrows headline would have read HEB Executive Flannigan and OTHERS parish on takeoff . We had many good laughs over that close call over the years. Please accept my deepest condolences. My familys prayers and thoughts are with you. May God Pleae you Tim. " Sterling and LeAnn Crim San Antonio Texas 4/12/2005 11:17:00 AM "I remember when Tim was a infant when his mother would bring him to Bishop O'Dowd. I was in Mike's class of '56. I also worked with Tim at Lucky stores. My condolences to the family. May he rest in peace. Tom" Tom Gallagher Pleasanton, CA 3/29/2005 12:00:00 AM